When planning my Bachelorette party I was ALL OVER THE PLACE. I had so much anxiety about it because I really wanted it to be fun but I also didn’t want it to be a huge inconvenience. Since I started planning my wedding only 5 months in advance, I did not have much time to plan a bachelorette party. Also, remember I live in Los Angeles and almost all my close friends and family in NY/NJ so I was like where the hell am I going to have this thing?!?!
I was SO indecisive until I finally decided I wanted to have my bachelorette party in the Hamptons. Weirdly enough growing up in NJ, I never had been to the Hamptons as an adult and I always wanted to go. My wedding was on September 8th so I decided to have my bachelorette party the weekend before my wedding which was Labor Day Weekend.
IT WAS THE BEST DECISION I MADE. Omg. I am eternally thankful to my sister, cousins, and friends for making my bachelorette party so freaking special. I am also SO HAPPY I had my bachelorette party the weekend before my wedding. Since it was a long weekend and my wedding was on a Friday, it felt like 1 big wedding week.
When I walked into the house it was already decorated and it was so special. My friends all printed photos of our favorite memories together and hung them all over the house (interspersed with penis banners, of course). I loved walking around the house and seeing all the memories. It was such a beautiful, never-ending blast from the past.
We stayed in the Hamptons for 3 nights but only really ventured out 1 night to go out. The other two nights we just stayed at the house, drank, played the best game of Celebrity and had a bonfire.
During the day we laid by the pool ventured out to Montauk and explored the beautiful scenery by the famous lighthouse. We also go Lobster Rolls which were delicious, and explored East Hamptons. My friends kept calling the bougiebach haha, but it was so much fun!
6 Tips for Throwing an Awesome Bachelorette Party
- Get a house! You will want to be under one roof with all of your girlfriends! It will make the experience so much more fun. My sister found this beautiful home in the Hamptons that we rented for the weekend. It was so fun and cozy and I loved having everyone in one house as opposed to hotel rooms. I am noticing now that the house says it sleeps 8 but there was definitely over 11 of us so I am wondering where everyone slept, haha.
- Make it all about the memories — When I walked into the house for my Bachelorette weekend it was already decorated and it was so special. I loved seeing everyone’s favorite memories with me! Haha, I am so sentimental but it really was one of my favorite parts!
- Don’t worry about an itinerary — Have a few things roughly planned but don’t try and set a strict schedule. There are too many people involved and you have to be open to change your plans. There were a few things I knew I wanted to do in the Hamptons, and we did them all. But by no means did we start out the weekend planning every second of it. It’s supposed to be a fun and relaxing weekend and you don’t want to be stressed out. Go with the flow.
- Don’t Underestimate Costs — Bachelorette parties can be very expensive between the home, traveling, etc. You don’t want your friends to feel hesitant to come or not have a good time because they are worried about their finances. A great way to save money is to cook most of your meals in the house. This actually makes it so much fun because you are cooking and eating together and also doesn’t cost a fortune.
- Make sure you ask the Bride what she wants… and that you listen! — Although the bachelorette party is something everyone looks forward to enjoying, it’s about the Bride! Ask her what she wants to do and if she says, “I don’t know” or “I’m up for whatever!” be specific. Does she want a spa day? A crazy night out? Etc. And for the Bride: trying to be chill is great, but if you’re dying for a spa day, then you should do a spa day! It will be easier for your friends to plan and you will be happier if you are transparent about what you want.
- Delegate — There is a lot that goes into planning so make sure you delegate so no one feels overwhelmed. One person can be in charge of decorations, one person in charge of food, one person in charge of games, etc.
Hope you have the best bachelorette weekend!!
xoxo Kristina
